Some practical advice you can put into action.
APU. Read it as a word and say it out loud. APU – A poo.
A poo. A poo. APU.
You’re just not going to find this shit anywhere else on the internet. You want short term results? Walk this way.
I’ve just finished methods of persuasion by Nick Kolenda, and you know what – it’s a decent book. But I came away with my own shortcut system for all the advice offered. If you want to persuade someone in a short amount of time, increase your chances with APU.
Let’s say we want to buy a new toy, but we anticipate resistance from the mark.
Anchor – You need to float your idea into the consciousness of the mark. It has to come across like an idea, can even come out half joking. If you put it as matter of fact, it will raise the defences of the mark and the game is over. “this car’s getting some miles on it now, would be cheaper getting a new one for the cost of maintenance” or “the telly’s had a better day, need a magnifying glass to see the screen”. Depending on time, you can anchor once and move to prime a short while later. But in the perfect world, the more you anchor WITHOUT raising the defences of the mark, the greater the chances when it comes to execution.
Prime – There are many examples and interpretations in the book, but I’m going to be precise. Have a conversation with the mark about someone recently having an open mind. For example, “I was talking to Dave today and he’s been pondering a career change, thinks he may be happy trying something new”. Or “Was talking to little Mike and he’s been listening to some freethinkers and has genuinely been questioning his faith”. Or any other countless example of someone being open minded. If you can use a real life example, even better.
Unload – The money shot. The foundations have been laid. Regardless of the result, our chances have improved, the final part of the job is a clean execution. By clean, I’m talking about presenting the idea as a serious idea. Without the joking, and without pressure. Just as a thought that just “popped” into your head and you’re considering out loud. “i’m thinking of low balling an offer for a car, would be a steal if accepted” or “could do with taking a look at TV’s today”. Simple, clean, execution. Just a statement slipped in from nowhere, with no conviction so no reason to question.
Of course an objection may be raised, and the key’s to play it cool, and if it’s looking like a no ball, switch it up to an anchor play. It’s your only option. It maintains strength longer term and means you’ve not lost any ground, only increased the chances for your next pitch.
And then of course there is the chance I’m talking absolute shit, and I’d probably put that ahead of this being something you can actually use in real life.
But who knows, it’s worth a shot.
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because it gets deep
It’s okay to decide not to do something, but it’s important you make the choice, recognise you’ve made the choice then consciously discard it.
Let me give you a few examples:
Someone asks you to do something later on. Later on arrives.
You decide “I can’t be arsed” and you don’t do it – but the thought of inaction is taking up cycles.
Now try this tact instead; later on arrives, you can’t be arsed. You think about general consequences, i.e. friend thinking your less reliable in this regard, possible small hit on the relationship. And with that in mind you think to yourself – “I’m not doing it, I’m happy to accept the consequences.”
Another example, you’ve been asked to do something. You’re not going to do it. Think about the possible consequences clearly in your mind, then consciously make a choice not to do it.
It sounds like utter nonsense. And it could portray me as a lazy bastard – of which I won’t deny. But it’s not as black and white as that. Shit happens all the time for when you’re not going to act, or you’re going to let someone down in a small way. Control the choice, make the decision and move on. It makes you think about the consequence and longer term, you won’t let things just expire. You’ll think about them each time, and the ones with bigger consequences than you may have considered, have the option of being rectified before it’s too late.
And the things that you consider and decide against anyway, you get to forget about, rather than have them nagging away in the back of your mind.
Life hacks bitch.
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I would – I do.
So that last post was about using a todo list app and how to prioritise. I don’t give a shit.
Sometimes you need to clear the schedule of everything, and let that idea rise from the pits of hell.
Seriously. There are days when I have my list, and know what needs to be done next. And yet, there is something inside nagging me. Trying to get out, trying to find some head space to communicate, but is being suffocated by all the active and sub conscious thought processes. I can feel it there, and it needs to be set free.
Your only responsible action at that point is to make the effort to update your list, so it’s clear for the day. Tick your repeating reminders, they’ll be back up tomorrow or next week. Move your other tasks that were planned for today, over to tomorrow or whatever and know; you’ve taken action to clear the day out. Don’t even chase the surfacing thought, let it come, or not, au natural.
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You see the thing is, todo lists are great aren’t they? I love it when end up with so many things, just looking at it makes you miserable; so you just start to ignore it all together and begin to wallow in self loathing.
harhar – so I don’t use them right? Wrong.
I use the mother fuckers, but before you delve into that rabbit hole you have to have a system of prioritisation. It’s easier shown, than explained. Here is my current list for prioritisation at work:
todoist, is the app I use in work to manage the things I need to do outside of our Case Management System. All you need to know is that our CMS has a whole host of cases that need to be done, and once everything above it is complete, I start working through them.
When I come in’ in the morning, it could be overwhelming. There are many components to my job as I’m sure there are yours, but the I don’t have to think about them all. I put the cursor at the top line, are there any high priority emails I need to look at? No – put the cursor at the next line. What’s been marked as high priority in todoist. Work through them a single task at time.
It takes as long as it takes, I’m always only ever focused on one thing. I could go on for hours talking about my “system” of job prioritisation, but it’s not important – different things work for different people. What is important is the ability to easily figure out what the single next thing is you should be focusing on. Then the rest comes down to work ethic and enthusiasm.
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