It’s okay to decide not to do something, but it’s important you make the choice, recognise you’ve made the choice then consciously discard it.
Let me give you a few examples:
Someone asks you to do something later on. Later on arrives.
You decide “I can’t be arsed” and you don’t do it – but the thought of inaction is taking up cycles.
Now try this tact instead; later on arrives, you can’t be arsed. You think about general consequences, i.e. friend thinking your less reliable in this regard, possible small hit on the relationship. And with that in mind you think to yourself – “I’m not doing it, I’m happy to accept the consequences.”
Another example, you’ve been asked to do something. You’re not going to do it. Think about the possible consequences clearly in your mind, then consciously make a choice not to do it.
It sounds like utter nonsense. And it could portray me as a lazy bastard – of which I won’t deny. But it’s not as black and white as that. Shit happens all the time for when you’re not going to act, or you’re going to let someone down in a small way. Control the choice, make the decision and move on. It makes you think about the consequence and longer term, you won’t let things just expire. You’ll think about them each time, and the ones with bigger consequences than you may have considered, have the option of being rectified before it’s too late.
And the things that you consider and decide against anyway, you get to forget about, rather than have them nagging away in the back of your mind.
Life hacks bitch.
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So that last post was about using a todo list app and how to prioritise. I don’t give a shit.
Sometimes you need to clear the schedule of everything, and let that idea rise from the pits of hell.
Seriously. There are days when I have my list, and know what needs to be done next. And yet, there is something inside nagging me. Trying to get out, trying to find some head space to communicate, but is being suffocated by all the active and sub conscious thought processes. I can feel it there, and it needs to be set free.
Your only responsible action at that point is to make the effort to update your list, so it’s clear for the day. Tick your repeating reminders, they’ll be back up tomorrow or next week. Move your other tasks that were planned for today, over to tomorrow or whatever and know; you’ve taken action to clear the day out. Don’t even chase the surfacing thought, let it come, or not, au natural.
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You see the thing is, todo lists are great aren’t they? I love it when end up with so many things, just looking at it makes you miserable; so you just start to ignore it all together and begin to wallow in self loathing.
harhar – so I don’t use them right? Wrong.
I use the mother fuckers, but before you delve into that rabbit hole you have to have a system of prioritisation. It’s easier shown, than explained. Here is my current list for prioritisation at work:
todoist, is the app I use in work to manage the things I need to do outside of our Case Management System. All you need to know is that our CMS has a whole host of cases that need to be done, and once everything above it is complete, I start working through them.
When I come in’ in the morning, it could be overwhelming. There are many components to my job as I’m sure there are yours, but the I don’t have to think about them all. I put the cursor at the top line, are there any high priority emails I need to look at? No – put the cursor at the next line. What’s been marked as high priority in todoist. Work through them a single task at time.
It takes as long as it takes, I’m always only ever focused on one thing. I could go on for hours talking about my “system” of job prioritisation, but it’s not important – different things work for different people. What is important is the ability to easily figure out what the single next thing is you should be focusing on. Then the rest comes down to work ethic and enthusiasm.
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I have a theory, with no scientific grounding.
A wise man once said, “observation, is the key the mastery”. And he was old as well – so, old and wise. You can’t get anymore grand than that.
I’ve tested this theory, by having things such as my weight measured weekly, waist – daily. And although I had no fast and hard systems for dieting, you find yourself developing methods of adaptation as your constantly receiving feedback about the thing you’re trying to improve. Peace of piss – that requires no filler to make it’s point. If you want to advance in an area, create a system the best allows you to measure it.
Maybe daily, maybe weekly, maybe something else. Spend some time, and be honest with yourself. What is the best way to measure progress, or lack of, on this specific thing you’d like to improve. Then do it. Just measure it for a few months, test the theory of the old wise man. Let me know how you get on.
So I’ve been observing my thought patterns recently because I’m ded clever, and I’ve come up with four core states.
Now this is arguably an insane over simplification. The first iteration of this post include descriptions much more verbose, but they got tangled up, as this isn’t all exactly a science. The best way to absorb what I’m saying is to observe the patterns yourself, so I propose the following exercise:
What I find most interesting about this process is the observation of emerging thoughts being passed into active thought transparently. What do I mean by transparently?
You’re focusing on the breath, and the fogging of the glass. A few short moments later you’re thinking about something that has happened that day. You never decided to change this track of thought. It’s just when you remember to observe your thought, you notice that you’re thinking of something other than the glass. When was that switch made? Define the line between your choice to concentrate on the glass, and the moment your thoughts wondered.
Your thoughts, outside of your control are moving focus from one thing to another. It’s pretty cool if you think about, and you can, using the 5 minute exercise above.
At another point in time I may venture into another benefit of this kind of thinking, and it’s the power of parking that wondering thought but still getting the benefits from it’s initial ponder. Again it goes into certain depth and would be clearer in it’s own post, so I’ll save it for another time.