It’s okay to decide not to do something, but it’s important you make the choice, recognise you’ve made the choice then consciously discard it.
Let me give you a few examples:
Someone asks you to do something later on. Later on arrives.
You decide “I can’t be arsed” and you don’t do it – but the thought of inaction is taking up cycles.
Now try this tact instead; later on arrives, you can’t be arsed. You think about general consequences, i.e. friend thinking your less reliable in this regard, possible small hit on the relationship. And with that in mind you think to yourself – “I’m not doing it, I’m happy to accept the consequences.”
Another example, you’ve been asked to do something. You’re not going to do it. Think about the possible consequences clearly in your mind, then consciously make a choice not to do it.
It sounds like utter nonsense. And it could portray me as a lazy bastard – of which I won’t deny. But it’s not as black and white as that. Shit happens all the time for when you’re not going to act, or you’re going to let someone down in a small way. Control the choice, make the decision and move on. It makes you think about the consequence and longer term, you won’t let things just expire. You’ll think about them each time, and the ones with bigger consequences than you may have considered, have the option of being rectified before it’s too late.
And the things that you consider and decide against anyway, you get to forget about, rather than have them nagging away in the back of your mind.
Life hacks bitch.