Let’s get one thing straight. The person who’s gaming, and that who’s depressed are two different people. But everyone deserves a click bait title.
So, we on facebook I come across this hilarious opening comment:
So it’s kind of funny, because divorce is serious. I’ve spoken it about it with the wife before myself, when the kids were young and it felt like life was falling apart, so know how low you feel during the whole process, but it’s finished off with a funny comment about more time for WoW (World of Warcraft). It just so happens I’m enjoying a fun stint of WoW at the moment which I’ll probably detail in another post at sometime, so it was relevant, funny quip to read on facebook.
I decided to go diving a bit more deeper to see what I could find, as my interest was peaked. The cause was confirmed not to be too much playing of WoW, but:
Now this one struck me as interesting. I’d like to start by saying this guys first language isn’t English, so I may have misinterpreted what he is saying, but to me , it’s “she’s the problem, because she’s depressed and choosing not to fight it”. Now that exhibits a strong reaction from me, as I’ve walked the path of postnatal depression myself, if we’re to put a label on it. After our two kids were born less than a year apart, a struggled with misery because you’re getting no fucking sleep, and your life as you knew it, was over. As it transpires, for the better; but in those dark early days, it’s a fucking struggle, or at least it was for me. So to have a response thrown down that seems to convey the message that depression is something you choose not to fight, and can be solved with just seeing things as “positive” threw me off a little.
I wrote down my response and read it, and I knew it was going to put the guy on the defensive, and I also know, as soon as someone is defensive, they dig in deeper, they don’t suddenly have a fucking revelation and say “ohhh shit yeah, you’re right, thanks for that” – they just tell you to fuck off, you don’t understand, in as many words. And it’s not about being right anyway, I don’t know if I’m right, but I do have an experience to share which may be related and may be able to help this guy see shit from the other side.
It is worth noting, earlier in the conversation he had said “… If only she took help” which may suggest she didn’t want to see a doc, which may be related to his original comment about flight or fight. Hence why I wanted to mention how it helped me. Depression is no fucking joke, and it comes with many faces. If you’re struggling, go see the quack and see what options are available. Maybe it will help, maybe it won’t. But don’t reject it off hand because of any stigma attached, and you being unable to get a handle on things is because you’re weak. “Shit happens” a quote that I live by, shit always happens. Sometimes you need help, sometimes those closest to you can’t help, so you’ve got to try something else. And who in their right mind turns down free fucking drugs?